Kids and nasty classmates...?

i just got a call from my son's teacher. apparently one of his classmates was wrongfully touching him =(


i have a meeting with the teacher, and the kid's parents....


i'm soooo Overwhelmed, mad and sad...


how should i react towards this in front of my son? what about this kid's parents.... they are only 7 yrs old and i have tried to keep anyhting involving sex away from my son.....


i know that by crying in front of my son might just make things worse... how do i handle this in a professional matter?

Kids and nasty classmates...?
Sounds like a good time to have that talk about how his privets are his, and NOBODY should every touch them. I'd also recommend you BOTH go into counseling for this lone issue.
Reply:Don't keep away sex from you son. You should talk about sex all his life.
Reply:First off keeping him away from it is just not a good idea and when the time comes he'll be very uncomfortable when it comes to talking to you about it and he'll go elsewhere to get details and they will be the bad kind. Second to actually answer your question lol talk to him about it. Tell him that he did nothing wrong and the the little boy who touched him did, and if he wants to talk about it then your all ears and waiting for him.
Reply:You are smart by keeping your cool around your son. Breaking down and crying will only give him a sense of guilt---like he did something wrong.





You need to be prepared. Ask all the questions you can and have your spouse or other family memeber there for support. If you do not get the answers you are looking for like 'what measures are going to be taken to insure that this does not happen again?' etc,, then you need to take it to the top. I am sure though that the principal will be there. Don't be coereced into speaking with fondlers parents today. You need to talk with the teacher and then align a plan for your situation. Take all the time you need to insure that your son is not vicimized all over again. Stay strong and don't be afraid to see out a counselor for your son.


I will be praying for stregnth for your family during this serious time.
Reply:Calm Cool %26amp; Collected..





If you over react ; or get angry in front of your son ; he'll think HES the reason your upset ...and take blame for something that isnt his fault. Instead; just tell him you have a meeting with the teacher and ( name)'s parents ; and ask him if he can guess what its about.


That way , he knows what took place between him and his classmate was out - of- the-ordinatry and inapproiate. Remember afterall , they are seven year olds ; who are quite currious and pretty oblivious about the terms " sexual harrasment " and "fondeling" so im sure any action was not a directed assult- But do not get emotional in front of your son over this matter. Your only doing him harm if your sheltering him from sex ; Its imporant to sit down and talk with him about what happend, and what sex is . But until then ; just remain calm and know it wasnt your sons, your, or the parents (of the other student) 's fault . It was the other student , so dont misplace your anger on anyone else ; including yourself
Reply:Sounds like you have been given some really good advice. I just wanted to add how sad this situation is, because the kid who is doing the touching most likely is having that done at home to him. I know that this is going to be somewhat traumatic for you, but I think your son is going to be just fine
Reply:right..





explain sex to him and why he should not do.


do not get emmotional in front of him if u need to cry say u need the toilet
Reply:wow.


Do you have to take your son with you?


If at all possible, try to leave him at home.


Just in case you do end up crying.


Good Luck!