Contacted an old bully I found on Classmates.com. Tough guy won't answer my emails?

He was the terror of our middle school. He was bigger and tougher than all of us. He punched, kicked, insulted, and threatened several of us for years.





He was supposed to be the highlight for some of us at the 20 year high school reunion. It was payback time. 5'9'' scared me at 13 when I was 5'5", but it doesn't worry me now that I'm 6'0".


I typed in his info on a public data sight. He never grew an inch after 8th grade. Here's the big secret he kept from all of us: he was actually two years older than all of us.





Back in the 80s, he said he would kick my a-- if I showed up at the reunion. I showed up, he didn't. Not a single school bully showed up.





I sent him an email through Classmates.com that had some insults. He read it, but no reply. I would like to get at least an "F*you" for old times sake, but I didn't even get that.





I'm having a hard time letting it go. This idiot tortured me nearly every day for years. I never got justice.


How can I let it go?

Contacted an old bully I found on Classmates.com. Tough guy won't answer my emails?
If you had your 20 year high school reunion then my suspicions that we are close to the same age have proven correct.


I thought this by reading your questions and answers here. They just sound to much like what someone "Our" age would write.


(I have a few years on you)


I'm sure by now you have probably noticed something about the people you knew from school.


Most all the "Bullies" are now either in jail or unemployed or working a near minimum wage job while still living with their parents and some even got so hard into drugs later in life that they now are mindless dweebs that everyone pushes around while they beg for change.


Also, The "Hot girls" that would have never given the average guy a second look or even said "Hi" back now have children from three different marriages and are currently single with little hope of getting with a guy worth his salt since they lost those good looks. Maybe not completely lost all the looks but nothing like they had. Now they troll the bars hoping to find "Mr. Right" with no idea he isn't in a bar.


How can you let it go? Think about what I just said. Maybe karma has a way of evening things up/getting revenge.


Maybe it done a better job then you could have.


Sounds odd coming from me, A guy that don't believe in either luck or karma but,, Once witnessed, And I have seen this, It's hard to deny that life has been harder on most the bullies and stuck up girls than anyone of us could be.


Maybe that's how you can let go.
Reply:you always do things you regrat...just move on, you already had your closure...you confronted him, you swore,now is the time to move on.
Reply:Maybe he is in jail and couldn't attend....





Nice thought, huh?
Reply:When I was in junior high school years ago in NYC, we had the same situation. The school bully was left-back at least 3 times and was 4 yrs older than us. Because of his large size, even the teachers were intimidated by him.





A pure antisocial, he never participated in class...nor did he bring any books. He just wanted to be considered popular, altho everyone hated this egocentric buffoon. Every morning he'd tell us, "who ahma git today?", followed with a sinister grin.





Following my Dad's advice, when it was 'my turn' I surprised the jerk very intensly , he lost so much face he emotionally shrunk in front of almost the whole school, thus ending his bullying...





How do you let it go? The fact that the coward doesn't rspnd to your email reveals that he's too chicken to answer. He remembers but doesn't have the mental tools to respond. He knows he's a coward. I hope knowing this satisfies you.





PS: This big dummy years later intimidated a guy whom he didn't know was a tae kwon do expert... the rest is history.
Reply:you can start by moving on with your life? you're not in high school anymore. besides that was 8th grade.. he was a teenager! maybe he didnt cuss you back because he is a different person now? you make it sound like he really traumatized you through school.





how about looking at it this way:





if not for him, you wouldnt be bigger and stronger and have a black belt right now.. after all.. he was the motivation for it in the first place right? you should be satisfied knowing that noone will dare bully you now that you can defend yourself.. thanks to him! life is too short for this stuff dude just move on it isnt worth it





p.s.- im curious.. how do u know he read your email if he didnt reply?
Reply:forget him. As long as you made your point, its over. he might actually be scared of you...haha!
Reply:Sounds like he's hiding. He is probably a loser now. That is what most bullies are. Sounds like you won to me. Let it go. If fate every brings you face to face, kick his butt.