Can you advice me?..my classmates are teasing me.?

My classmates are hard to work with. There is a saying that if you can't beat them, join them. But I can't because they are rude and bad. Even our class officers. They are teasing me that I am the most awkward and the most lousy invlass. Why are they so mean to me? I need your help...

Can you advice me?..my classmates are teasing me.?
It sounds like you are more mature than these kids. Ignore them and they will go away.
Reply:well I'm so sorry that people are acting like that but you don't need to pretend so they will stop the truth is that when someone is feeling insure about themselves they tend to try to make other people feel like they do on the inside so don't fall victim to the ignorance you go to school to learn and that's what you should do learn that people like that are not worth your time and your better then them and when your gone they will most likely be there teasing someone else.good luck today sweetie!!!
Reply:The reason they pick on you is because you are vulnerable. Unlike most animals, they don't need a reason--just an opportunity. And don't try to fight fire with fire. You are probably a sweet, gentle person. They are loud, evil people. In a verbal battle, they will probably win. But what you CAN do is confuse them. If you do it right, it will be funny for you to watch.





1. When you're late, don't walk in with your head down. Step in, lift your head, and say, "Hi" or "Hey." The next time you do something wrong in sports or drop something in the cafe, take a bow as if you're on stage. Then grin and scratch the back of your head and walk away.





2. Carry a bag of chips with you. The next time someone says something cruel to you, offer them a chip. My sis taught me that one.





3. This one is all about your facial expression and voice. *Never* sound sarcastic and don't act like you're gonna cry. But don't look super-happy because then they'll think you're crazy. Just act like the sky is blue and you're waiting to go somewhere fun. Then, when someone insults you--agree with them. But be sure NOT to sound sarcastic and NEVER mock them. It will start a battle and you'll lose. Use the tone of voice you'd use if you were saying, "Hey, I got an A on my report card." But instead say, "I know. I'm actually one of the stupidest people I've ever met (then laugh a little)" The idea is the make them hear how ugly they sound. It is like holding up a mirror so that they can see their hideous reflection. But you don't want them to figure out what you're doing. So you MUST sound sweet and a little shy.





Say stuff like, "Oh man, that was awkward. I'm so embarrassed! I hope I didn't sound too stupid," or, "I didn't handle that well. Even my friends say I'm a complete failure." Then wait for them to respond. Unless they are BLOODLESSLY EVIL people, they'll be tempted to say, "Well, you weren't that bad!" But they'll probably be totally silent, especially if you add a little flattery. When you're done attacking yourself--or if they attack you--raise your hands and smile. Act embarassed but perky and say, "Well, God never gave everything to just one person"--which is a cute way of saying, "No one on Earth is perfect."





Don't believe the lies you say about yourself. You are only trying to tip them off balance. And don't believe the lies they say about you. Bullies will always be there, but give it time. My twin and I were sweet, kind, goofy-looking kids. I used to look in the mirror and think, "Why am I not pretty? It hurts. What if it get worse as I age?" Of course, I'll probably be an old lady some day--and human bodies are fragile--but a few months after I graduated high school, I turned into a bonified super fox. I still looked like ME--but I became beautiful because the bullies stayed home and I went to college. Without them, I was free to climb out of the box they kept me in. I stopped hiding in huge clothes and long hair. Of course I goofed sometimes, but then I just said, "Oops" and moved on. And I didn't tell anyone--besides you--that I was once so ashamed. Ha ha! So I guess the kids at college just assumed I was cool!





Stay good.


-P.
Reply:Because you refuse to join them, you stand out from the crowd. Given the choice of joining them or being yourself, for me there is only one option. It's not the easy option but it shows who you are. You should look at these people and be glad that you're different from them. Just think - you don't have to spend the rest of your life with these people so if you can grin and bear it for as long as you have to it will all be good in the end.
Reply:You could ignore them or tell them" I've been called worse by better!" No come back, and it takes them awhile to figure out exactly what you said.
Reply:ill bet they are just jelous because you not rude like them. people have to make somone else look bad to hide their own downfalls, If they are talking about you then no one will see whats wrong with them. I had this problem at school too. It seems like a lot of the kids with good morales who are smart enough not to join the crowed get picked on. It makes you uniqe and like i said they are jelous. find some real friends, its better to have a few real friends then to have a whol bunch of people who call themselves friends but will stab the min. your back is turned.


Just stay brave and love yourself.
Reply:They are mean to you because they are; insecure about themselves, they enjoy the attention that they get from others when they pick on you, your not assertive enough, or a combination of these things.





I had this happen to me. If I were you I would do two things.





1. I would find out what Jesus Christ thinks about you. Your value does not depend on what others think about you or even what you think about your self. You value is found in His love for you.





2. I would get in their face about it. Both physically and verbally. You have the right to stand up for your self. Most of them are cowards and do not want to pick on someone that fights back. They want to pick on some one who will let them.





Be Blessed