Monday, April 12, 2010

I am 16 years old. Do I snitch out my classmates?

am 16 years old. Do I snitch out my classmates?


I made a big mistake at a party with some of my junior classmates. I feel very frustrated. I lost all dignity adn want to move. Me and two guys were playing an adult board game with 5 girls from our cheerleading team at one of the girls houses. In the end, I had to get nude in front of the others. All 7 of them were sitting on the couch when I walked in naked. I had to stand that way for 5 minutes. Well, when I came out, they (even the guys) were mocking my half inch penis and then as time went on, I got an erection of 3.5 inches. The girls were laughing hysterically waving their pinkys at each other and to make matters worse the two other guys, pulled their trunks down and showed they were twice as big as me. I am getting ridiculed by everyone at school. Should I tell on them to my principal?

I am 16 years old. Do I snitch out my classmates?
I think you have a wild imagination..
Reply:yes, you made a mistake. I for one am always making mistakes. When I was of you age, I took a girl out, and she came back and told the whole school we did not have sex. I felt very foolish, but, as is life, it will pass, it is not very funny, means very little, and you can charm as many of the woman as you like. Remember, these are girls, and what you want is a woman, trust me.
Reply:Since this took place at one of the girls house and not in school or on school property I don't even see the validity of your question about to tell the principal.





The only person to snitch to would be parents- ALL of your parents btw and especially the parents of the girl who had you all over to play this game.
Reply:I hate to say it, but at that age telling the principal will do nothing but spread the story to the faculty. You could always claim you are being harassed, and (with luck) take down a few people but in the long run, that doesn't help... if anything it makes you a snitch too.





Either you suck it up and wait for it all to die down, or (and I really don't support this) you make your claim that the harasment is too much and you have to transfer.
Reply:I thought you were 26?





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Reply:You should definitely talk to your guidance counsellor. That's really sad. You shouldn't have done that. This is why you listen to your MOM AND DAD...they are there to protect you and this is what happens with your so called "friends" and why would you have done something so dumb? They probably set you up for it too.





Sounds like a major bunch of losers to me.





At this point, try to deal with it. Do tell your principal or guidance counsellor because no one should have to put up with that kind of teasing at school, even if it stemmed from something so stupid.





This is why some things are best kept PRIVATE and honestly you learned a hard lesson that I know you will never forget.





At this point, you are probably better off going to another school. It's going to depend on you and how you cope with what you did. Stay if you want but if you go, just look at it as starting over clean...I prefer to do that than to waste my life fixing things for other people's benefit. Nothing feels better than a fresh slate and a brand new world of people to get to know.





But firstly, I would "face the crowd" so to speak and say SO WHAT. You are probably amongst the average of guys and only the hung guys seemed to whip it out didn't they (since they had something to compare it to) and I'm sure there are many more guys like you. Nothing to be ashamed of but at your age I imagine it's excruciating. If you find it unbearable then leave. It's all up to you.





This is why you keep your family jewels to yourself and not put them on display. You learned a hard lesson. I can't imagine you will live it down anytime soon so DO talk about it with your principal. An adult will be sympathetic and handle the situation and then you can decide whether to stay or go.





If you go, it will probably be the best thing for you psychologically. Who cares what they think. Just say I don't have to deal with a bunch of assholes like you and leave.





And DON'T think because you discuss this with your prinicipal that they are going to call everyone in and reprimand them. Just tell them how you feel and that you are so humiliated and don't know how to cope with this. This is why a guidance counselor is better if you have one but in any case, the principal will know the situation and alert the teachers to keep an eye out for inappropriate bullying and teasing from other students and put a stop to it.





None of the other students ever have to know you spoke to anyone. Just tell the principal you want it confidential or that you want to switch schools. It will ultimately be your decision but your parents should become involved in this too. They will understand. They were young once too.





These people who laugh have a lot of major flaws too...they just think they are cool in high school but so many are just nit wits and in the scheme of your life mean nothing really. You will leave them all behind in a few years and most all you will never see again so don't let them screw with your head. You can do plenty with what you have there and half those hung guys don't know what to do with what they got anyway.





My daughter talks to her guidance counsellor about a lot of things that happen at school. They never betray your confidence and I think it gives the administration something to work with when they kind of get to know what really happens amongst the students. You would be surprised how much they know already, especially about all the druggies...they just don't do anything with that knowledge and often cops are planted into the schools too...so stay away from those types. No good come from those type of folk.
Reply:Only if you want to have a beating administered to you.





Ignore the jibes; your classmates will soon find something else to amuse themselves over.
Reply:Well if you didn't want to get nude you didn't have to, no one was going to do anything about it if you didn't get nude. But if u probably would get teased for not wanting to get nude (which probably would have been blown off in a few days), now your getting mocked for your small "size". We all do things that we are not proud of and this is one of your things, i hope you learn a good lesson from it.


Snitching is not going to do anything about what happened, YOU shouldn't have been playing those games anyway and i bet if it was someone else you wouldn't want to snitch.. you made the bed now you have to lay in it.
Reply:You want to become a narc because you cant take the ridicule? That sounds pretty childish to be honest...What are you going to tell the principal, that they teased you for having a small penis? Give me a break....get some thicker skin.
Reply:NO! You were not raped you were conned. It's all on you keep quiet.
Reply:No.





If you are really honest with yourself, the truth is that your desire to "snitch" is a desire for revenge--its that simple. As for your emmbarassment--learn from your mistake--but don't blame others for your own stupid behavior.





That being said--you SHOULD talk to your parents--preferably your father about this--you are going to be in for a rough time at school, at least for a while. You will need his support.





And here's a bit o f"adult" perspective: a lot of kids manage to do dumb things like you did--in fact the majority at one time or another. By chance, you landed yourself in a particularily embarrassing situation. but you did nothing drastically "wrong." Which is more than I can say for a lot of teens. Just pick up the pieces of your dignity, learn from this--and take the consequences. Welcome to being an adult--and good luck. :)
Reply:What would it gain? They would work out that it was you and your reputation would be much worse. Grin and bear it. Make a joke of it " anyone got some tweezers- I want to jerk off!" and start calling yourself "Biggus D", and when they see that you aren't affected by their comments, which is what they want, they will move on to something else.When you leave, don't attend reunions, or if you do, don't bring anyone with you. Consider penis extension surgery later, if it bothers you that much.
Reply:I am sorry for your embarrasment. It sounds like you are a victim of peer pressure, not of the actions of any one particular classmate. Thus, I dont know what the principal could do about it - none of your classmates did anything illegal (unless anybody was over 18) or forced you to do anything - it was your own choice to take off your clothes. To put it another way, you couldve walked out of that house before stripping - but you chose to stay. This is the consequence of that action.





Being 16 is really tough so I dont know that there is a "best solution" to this problem. Instead of talking with the principal, I suggest talking with your parents and asking for their advice.
Reply:No don't snitch, unless you feel threatened, which I don't think you do. Wow, that must suck. The situation is miserable for you, but I don't think it will get any better, if you get them in trouble. They will just laugh at you %26amp; hate you, so would many of their friends. Eventually laughing at you will get old %26amp; they will be mean to someone else. It must suck, but things are never as bad as you think they are. Focus on school, hang out with true friends, don't give them any reaction. If you don't give them any action, they will get bored. Good Luck. It will get better.


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