How to get rid of my overbearibg attitude to classmates and teachers?

my classmates and teachers seems to treat me differently this semstre, it is final semstre. how to get rid of overbearing atitude??


tell me how can I work hard and be motivated in my studies and work without showing the others that I am showing them that I know more. tell me help!

How to get rid of my overbearibg attitude to classmates and teachers?
Now we're getting somewhere! :)





You can't do it all at once--you have to change how you present yourself. And that is a learned skill. In the short term, there's a really good way to keep from annoying people: be quiet. I don't mean not talk to anyone--but make an effort not to talk more than you need to--especially in class.





But that's just a band-aid to keep you from hurting yourself while you learn to change how you deal with others.





First--go find two poems: "If" by Rudyard Kipling and "Desiderata" (frget the author). You can get them online. The core of what they have to say is 2 things:


1) It's not what you know that counts--it s what you do whith what you know--and especially how you treat others.


2) You don't know as much as you think you do.





Number 2 is especially hardto learn--especially if you really are smarter than average. I know from hard experience. In fact, at this point in my life--with 3 graduate degrees--my biggest lesson is to find out how little I know.





And itmeans others--almost everyone around you--knows something you don't. It may be a smalll thing--likehow to do some craft (e.g. making candles). Or like a very nice lady I know whho has only a high school diploma--but her willingness to help others is an inspiration to everyone who knows her.





Now, first of all--the fact that you are willing to say "how can I take the responsibility to chenge myself, instead of blaming others" puts you well on the way to fixing the problem--and congratulations for that.





Next step: think about what you do and say with the following things in mind:


1) is what I'm about to say about Me? If the answer is yes, then unless you are answering a specivic question, either change what you are going to say--or shut up.


2) Am I offering unasked-for advice. If so--don't If someone wants your advice, they'll ask.


3) In class (or anywhere else) are you taking center stage all the time? And here's a hint--answering questions or participating in discussions is part of class--but for a while, make it a policy to wait a minute--give others a chance to take the lead.


4) Every time you talk to someone, try to notice some positive--how they're dressed, something they say, anything. And compliment them. Always make it something real--thet is real, don't fake it--ever. (On occasion, you'll meet people where there isn't anything positive--but that 's rare). And the converse is true--don't criticize. Give an honest answer if someone asks, though.


5) This is actually the number 1 thing--but it takes work. Learn to laugh at yourself. That takes practice--but not taking yourself too seriously is vital.


6) All of the above--in one way or the other--can boil down to this: stop focusing on yourself and focus --in a positive and respectful way--on people around you.


7) Look for and learn about people who are positive role models--people who have done important things--well beyond what you or I are ever likely to do. The best way to develop some real humility is to make a point of rubbing your own nose in just how far beyond you some people are. Here's some names to get you started (limited to people you can find biographies of easily)


Past:


Socrates, Aristotle


Nathan Hale, ToHomas Paine


Ben Franklin


Sojourner Truth (that is a person's name)


Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Jr.


John Locke, Isaac Newton


Laura Bridgeman, Helen Keller, Robert Irwin (autobiography: As I saw It)


Lincoln, Kennedy, Eisenhower


Plus "Profiles in Courage" by John F. Kennedy.


Ted Williams (sports).





Here's my view: If, in my entire life, I can equal the sheer moral courage of any one of those, much less their accomplishments, I will have exceeded m y own limitations far beyond what I really expect to do.





"The beginning of wisdom is the recognition of one's own ignorance"--Confucius (I think)





Good luck to you! :)
Reply:You are welcome. I do know how you feel--I had to learn the same lesson myself years ago! :) Report It

Reply:Just suck it up and not complaining about it. Just focus on what you need to do and don't worry about showing them that you know more! Do it for yourself! Not for an impression you would have with others! Just give up the attitude and be glad you can have an education! count your blessings not your burdens.
Reply:get good test grades, do all your homework, and definitely, a must, participate in class, and hold a friendly behavior, so even friends will like you along with teachers
Reply:Stop being such an @sshole.
Reply:Perhaps you should not indulge in conversations about your grades and your intelligence. Try focusing on the other person instead of waiting for your turn to talk. Smile a lot. Say "hi."