Have you kept in close contact with your former classmates?

High school was the worst time of my life, and I didn't graduate, so I don't get invitations to reunions. Although I'm now living in my hometown again, I wouldn't know one of my classmates if I were to run into him or her on the street.





My sister goes to reunions and says occasionally someone will ask about me, but basically it's a closed chapter. There is only one person I miss, and we stayed close until I moved away.

Have you kept in close contact with your former classmates?
no, we all change in our lives, and would have little, if anything in common with them today....this is exactly what I found at my 40th reunion....interesting experience. Along the way, I did try to contact a few via email when I found their address(es). Got a reply, we wrote for a short time, but it was obvious we shared little, if anything. No big deal.
Reply:None of them. I re-acquainted myself with some at the 30th class reunion and maintained contact for a few years, but mostly found I'd little in common with the bulk of them.





Whatever it was we needed to form lifelong friendships probably was lacking in us as youths.
Reply:I kept in close touch with a few and since I stayed in the same area, until recently, I ran into many former classmates around town over the years.





High school was a pretty miserable time for me and although I do have a few good memories, I would just as soon forget most of those years.





That said, we had our 30th reunion a couple of years ago and something happened that I would never have dreamed possible. Some of the people(jerk jock types, snooty little witches) that I had the least respect for way back when, have actually turned into very nice people. Seems that they had some very rude awakenings after high school and the results, for the most part, were a positive improvement in their personalities and outlook on life.





Our 30th reunion was one of the most memorable and happy occasions of my adult life. I've stayed in touch with a lot of people that I hadn't seen since high school and formed new friendships with many of the classmates that I never dreamed I would have anything in common with. It was a great experience and I would recommend to anyone that has reservations about attending a reunion, to go ahead and go.





I attended the 10 and 20 year reunions as well, and honestly, did not enjoy them, but there was something special about the 30th. I think maybe ALL of us had grown up by then.........
Reply:I stay in contact with my best friends, and there is one that I would love to see, but I don't where she is. There are a lot I could care less if I see or not. I have gone to several class reunions, and you say hi to some, then everyone seems to go to their little cliques like in school. I like seeing how the snooty poodles turned out, some aren't quite as great as they thought they were.
Reply:Not high school classmates. I even skipped a 50 year reunion earlier this year. It was a different time and place in my life. But, there were 19 of us who got commissioned from the ranks in the Navy and went to officer training together. One has passed away. But, I've managed to track down all the others and I'm hoping for a 40th anniversary reunion in 2010.
Reply:My friend and I went to our 30th reunion..a few had been killed in vietnam,a few just passed away.I had people I didn't even remember coming up and hugging me,,,and we had no happy memories together in high school...but I guess I was liked more than I knew. Of course my own cousin,hardly acknowledged me(just like high school)lol
Reply:In California, the reunions that were set up to be for everyone have turned into a money making scheme for the class members who have small businesses. It has turned into the 3-B's (Beer, Bands, %26amp; Barbeque) at a price that makes it far too expensive to attend just to see a bunch of people that have never grown-up %26amp; still like to drink as a form of entertainment. I always recognize the voices of the people I went to school with, but sometimes their faces elude me! Since I attended over 10 schools, I run into people I know in just about every part of California!!! I don't attend reunions because I have moved on with my life %26amp; have no desire to return to high school again! My childhood friends have all passed away, moved out-of-state, or gone to prison for life.
Reply:We had a high school reunion about nine years ago, my friend refused to go , said she hated hs and there wasn't anyone she wanted to see other than me and she sees me all the time LOL.





I frankly enjoyed seeing people I hadn't seen in years. Some of them were still the jerks they were in hs, but alot of them had matured into really lovely people. Many brought their families with them.





I still see some of the old graduates and teachers who stayed in town or returned to it .





HS was a long time ago and a lot of water's gone under the bridge.





I'd ask to have my name put on the reunion list , there were lots of people at the reunion who didn't graduate and nobody really gave two hoots, times and circumstances were different then.





My thirtieth year graduating from university comes up this fall, now that one I'm not sure I want to go to LOL.
Reply:I am in the same situation. I am once again living in my home town and I often think about trying to contact some of my old friends from high school especially a guy who was my best buddy back then. I have even gone as far as to find out where he lives and his address but as yet have not written to him or contacting him in any way because I keep thinking, "if this guy hasn't looked me up, why should I be the one to do it"


I know this might seem like a narrow view but when you think about it it makes more sense the more you think about it. It could lead to an embarrassing situation if they don't remember you or even if they do, their lack of enthusiasm could lead you to be sorry you instigated the reunion. As you can see, I've given this a lot of thought.
Reply:I went to boarding school. I keep in touch with my old


roommate. We call each other, email and see each other


all the time. Then one day last year, I received an email


from another gal who was a roommate. I was thrilled to


hear from her. She lives in the UK and I live in the US,


so we don't see each other, but we do email and send


photos. No friend like and old friend.
Reply:No. I skipped the last year of high school by taking my GED during summer off. I get married, then went to college at night. Have no contacts with anyone from either school.





Years later I was in a hardware store and two men there said they recognized me from high school. I did not remember them at all!! Funny, they were working in a hardware store, and I worked in an office. Guess who did not go to college?
Reply:no
Reply:yeh i still talk to some but i dont go to reunions, if i wanted to do that id just go to the local bar and see all the ******* there!!
Reply:Since I seldom got 'up home' and then only for 2 - 3 days at a time WHEN I WAS IN THE U.S., I seldom saw anyone I went to school with. There was one gal I have kept in contact with since '65, but she has since passed away 2 years ago. I missed my 5th class reunion because I was in Japan, my 10th because I was in Sardinia, my 20th because I was in Israel. I finally made my 30th. Someplace along the line, someone in the next town over with the same name as mine died. Several people (who must suffer from reading comprehension disability...the guy was 12 years older than I) thought I was dead. A lot of funny looks when I walked into the reception at a local club in 1995. At the party the next night, my friend from 2nd grade looked at me, then walked right by me as I spoke to him. I got a notice in 05 about the upcoming reunion in October, but I never heard another word. The gal who sent out the notices lives across the street from my sister and had the same doc my mother did. She insists she sent out the info for registering for the 05 reunion, which I never got. Oh well...I was in Charleston, SC on a job anyway.


Out of a class of 164, I actually ran into 2 people while I was in the Navy. I checked out the alumni list and of those that were found, about 80% still live in and within 50 miles of our town. The furthest from Delaware lives in Seattle.
Reply:I attended Catholic school from kindergarten all the way through High school. Grade school was both sex's, but High school was girls only. I did attend the 1st reunion, but found that all the clicky, pretty girls, were now all (how do I say this)


overweight. All the people that I knew growing up from school, lived in the same general neighborhood, and we were all close. I also found that we did not have the same things in common any longer, and had moved on with our lives. So I did not bother to attend any further reunions.


I do still think about my childhood girlfriend,and she used to see my brother, and ask how I was. I would like to see her again and reminisce, but alas, I do think that we would now have little to talk about. Life goes on, and the past is the past.
Reply:I did previously but i don't seem to find them as interesting anymore and some have changed so drastically that I don't even like them anymore. I'm just glad I'm me after hearing some of the stories.
Reply:I WAS NOT POPULAR IN HIGH SCHOOL DUE TO POVERTY AND HAVING TO WORK A JOB WHEN NOT IN SCHOOL. I KNOW THAT MANY OF THE FRIENDS I DID HAVE LOST THEIR LIVES IN VIETNAM OR TO TRAGIC CIRCUMSTANCES DUE TO ILLEGAL DRUG USE.





I MET AN OLD CLASSMATE WHEN I WAS ABOUT 40 YRS. OLD. WE HAD MUCH IN COMMON - BOTH OF US WERE WORKING IN A PSYCHIATRIC CLINIC (HE WAS MY BOSS), BOTH OF US HAD MARRIED BEAUTIFUL AND INTELLIGENT WOMEN, AND WE SHARED SO MANY INTERESTS AND CREATIVE PURSUITS THAT I COULD NOT BELIEVE HOW SIMILAR AND COMPATIBLE WE WERE. WE ARE BOTH BIG GUYS (6'5") AND LOVED BEACH VOLLEYBALL - SO WE FORMED A TEAM AND WENT UNDEFEATED FOR 2 YRS.





PERHAPS SEEING OLD CLASSMATES WOULD LEAD YOU TO SIMILAR HAPPY EXPERIENCES? YOU NEVER KNOW.
Reply:No not really, I hated school and couldn't leave fast enough. I sometimes see one of the girls that I was at school with but we are not friends. If there was a reunion I would not be going.


All my friends today were not at school with me.
Reply:I am too much of a free spirit to allow myself to be tethered to an event or time period of my past. There is zero contact with anyone that far back. In reflecting of my habits, it can be said I don't continue contacts with former friends. I just continue to make new ones.
Reply:no I didn't. my husband has been to reunions at his old school
Reply:Our class has a reunion every year at a local restaurant. I go if I can. It is nice to talk about old times with school friends. I also email an old classmate and keep up with what is going on with the others.