Help. My classmates are harassing me?

okay I'm a bi guy. I'm closeted I really don't want to let other people know it yet. but I'm kind of feminine so they probably think my sexuality is questionable.





so one time in class there's my guy classmate who's been flirting me since the start of the sem. I'm not sure if he's being serious coz he's a very playful guy. we're only about 20 students in that class and he's popular to us coz he's a good joker. so when we're about to be dismissed he sat beside the vacant chair beside me, I'm sitting near the door. then his guy friends howled at us. I just keep quiet. but he really seems to have a crush on me. I'm not sure if real though.





then after that I noticed one of my girl classmates started talking strange. we're talking about our assignment and she's saying the characters are gays and lesbians. I dunno but she seems to be directing it on me. then I went to the CR. then I see them again. she asked "did you go to the girl's CR?". I said "what??" I just felt disrespected there.

Help. My classmates are harassing me?
Well, what I can tell you is that even thou you don't want others to know about you yet; Just stay true to yourself regardless how much they make fun of you. Never change for anybody just because they assume that you're gay, bi or whatever. You are who you are. With the male situation: ask him what's his t? (that's something that all the gay/bi males (kids) say in the gay community. And if he tells you then he's into you and if he doesn' then bring the conversation up with him but do it while it's only just the 2 of you. Males are hard to read when it comes to this type of stuff; than females. Wink at him and see what happens but be creative with the flirting thou.
Reply:well i dont think u should ask if he is gay or not because he is really playing de ***! he is a fool. dont pay him any mind. but if it bothers you, put yourself out there. make fun or your self, play along with him. it won't be a joke anymore and it would get old after sometime.
Reply:homophobes are everywhere. that's a fact.
Reply:Unfortunately, homosexuality is a hot topic in schools and kids love talking about it. You just have to ignore it as almost every gay teen goes through this.





If you like the other boy, ask him if hes gay privately without revealing your sexuality...test the waters one might say. If he is and hes interested try having a "under the radar" relationship until youre ready to come out.





You may even be so bold as to start a Gay / Straight alliance in your school. Youd be surprised to the amount of support you could get.





Always ignore the bullies, they lose interest if they get nothing back from you.
Reply:I went through the same kind of thing. This guy...from my past experience...isn't really interested in you. More likely, he wants to get you to let down your guard so that they will have ''proof'' of their suspicion of your sexuality. THEN...the real harassment will begin.


been there....done that....fell for it....got beat up after wards....





Just stay focused on getting the heck out of there.....as soon as school is over for you...things will be MUCH better.....they were for me.





But...be strong. we are always here you.
Reply:If it keeps happening just let the school principle know because I'm bi and i was in your shoes at one time and I didn't do anything about it and it really hurt knowing that there was so many people that were always getting harrassed like that. If the principle don't do anything about it take it to the school board and they will because thats discrimination and then if nothing is done still go to the media and trust that is when something will be done no matter what.
Reply:Unfortunately this is the world we live in. We still have parents teaching their children to be bigots, we still have negative stereotypes for people with different sexual preferences.





I know this is easier said than done, but please don't let it get to you. These kids are probably just immature, not everyone is that ignorant. Once you get older, you will meet more open-minded individuals who won't judge you because of your feminine qualities or sexual preferences.





You are you. You probably have hundreds of good qualities that have nothing to do with being bi. Let those shine, be proud of who you are. Don't engage in the immature behavior.
Reply:well, you are probablly going to get beat up a lot. that is just the way it is.
Reply:Just Ignore them
Reply:WOW, I'm really speachless. I wouldn't let it bother you just take it with a grain of salt, kids will be kids! What grade did you say you were in? But if it gets out of hand I would tell somebody.
Reply:i don't know how the hell do u expect me to know if that guy likes u or not





god......
Reply:Just chill and ignore them...don't let them get the best if you yet. If you react to such things, they'll find it funny and will annoy you even more. It's just the way of the world mate. Homophobic people are everywhere like the other answerer said.


Don't pay attention to them....I'd say avoid such people if you can. Believe me, if you get the habit of ignoring such people, you'll be more confident and will be popular. It's true since people like to annoy me a hell lot but all I do is smile at them and walk away. It's surprises them but they get bored soon and stop.


Don't let them bother you....for your own good at least.


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Reply:I feel your pain, I went through the same thing in school. Try to ignore it. I know it's hard. It IS disrespectful. If it escalates, hopefully you have some protection against harassment at your school. Don't let them know they get under your skin.


It sounds like they are trying to set you up. Don't take the bait. Just be yourself. If you don't react, eventually they will get bored with it because they know they can't get to you.





Good luck!