Classmates! please help to understand. i was raised in a different country.the #1 website these is classmates.

xxx. we look for our schoolmates, people we went to colleges, camps, etc. together. but more than 90% are looking for people we went to school together, our childhood friends.after talking to my 25 y.o and older american friends, i noticed that almost none of them have friends since childhood. they met their new friends in college, work or neighboorhood. most of my classmates leave in different countries, but i cannot express the happiness and joy when we find each other. why americans after graduation from high school dont keep their friends? i love the movie about romy and michelle, but in real life in america you dont meet people who still friends for that long. why? i dont want to offend anyone, please no rude/mean answers. i am posting this question in different categories, because i really want to get an opinion about this. thank you.

Classmates! please help to understand. i was raised in a different country.the #1 website these is classmates.
Mostly in America rather in Western countries the attachement to the friendship more or less do not get extended beyond a point, except few. In normal the life style are more tedious and parents do not find time to socilaise and if at all they want to meet friends it should be on a special occassions like Marriage, Birth days, etc, that too mostly they meet in Hotels and life is too formal than in Asia and Africa.





Since the relationship and frienship are more formal they do not get too closer and continue the relationship for life, I am not generalising my opinion. Mostly the Kids from School are more closer as they read for longer period in the schools than college, when it goes to college the priority is totally different to concentrate more on future carrier, life and days goes.





The friendship generally do not come from their bottom of the mind and heart and it is purely superficious and doesn't carried along with their life.





It is not the mistake of the people but the society, it is purely the pressure on the day to day life has pushed the priority of Collage/school mates friendship to a lower degree .





Please appoligise if i am wrong and my opinion differs. *
Reply:I still have friends from high school, but I think in general if people go to college the distance between them and their old friends is enough to dampen the friendship. And, a lot of high school friendships are in cliques, like all the cheerleaders are friends with each other, all the band members, all the skaters, etc, and these cliques a lot of times dissolve after high school.





Also, people move away. Maybe someone had a best friend from age 5-12 but they moved out of state and never kept contact.





But really, I think a lot of people still have friends from high school. I grew up in a small town, and for the most part, if people don't go away to college they end up staying there for a long time, of course with all the other high school classmates.





I personally am engaged to a high school classmate, and have 3 very good friends from my high school (although we weren't super close back then).